The Top 3 Reasons We Fall in Love

Hani Henry, associate psychologist and chair of the Department of Sociology, Anthropology, Psychology and Egyptology, AUC, said that Robert Sternberg's psychological theories cover the most common reasons people fall in Love, namely intimacy, passion, and dedication.

Intimacy

Falling in love for intimate reasons can be described as having a basic friendship; it lacks commitment and passion. "Besides developing a close connection with someone, a lot of people seek intimacy for self-enhancement; it doesn't necessarily have to be for sex," said Henry. It can be self-serving. Everyone needs to feel loved, cared for, and respected. Women desire to feel their femininity and men desire to feel their masculinity.

Intimacy is captured perfectly in Adele's Hello song. Adele contacts her ex boyfriend and reveals her feelings of heartbreak about the relationship in the song's chorus. She explains that many years have passed and she hasn't done much healing. "Her lyrics are magical and speak for a lot of people who want to have an emotional connection with anyone or a short-term relationship," he said.

Passion

It is normal to fall in love with someone because we feel strong feelings or desire for them. Passionate love is developed as a result of feelings that lead to sexual attraction, physical interest and romance. Henry stated, "When someone you like is attracted to you by something that draws them to that person." Henry explained that physical attraction can be described as a fascination with hair, eyes, and the body.

Infatuation is a feeling of love that develops without intimacy or commitment. "People become captivated and develop lust. Some people become obsessed with a person and view them as an object. You can be with someone for years and don't feel there is commonality between you and that person," he said.

Commitment

Complete love is only possible through commitment. "People who seek commitment want stability and a healthy relationship," he said. People who only want commitment may not be attracted to others and lose basic friendship interests.

According to Henry, in modern times, young adults are interested in objects more than relationships. He said, "The objectification of culture comes from consumerism." "The more consumerism a culture becomes the more people lose interest and commitments. Some youth are more concerned with impressing people they don’t care about. Therefore, it is important to eat everything and have good relationships with others.

Love Outside the Triangular Theory

Although it's common that anyone can relate to Sternberg's love theory, we all have our personal reasons for falling in love. Science doesn't have to explain why you fall in love. click here stated that some personal needs could include the fear of being alone or social peer pressure, fulfillment, or religious values.

Psychology may have some things to say about love but the love we choose is what defines us. We all have our own unique ways of understanding what makes us happy, and what fulfills our human desires. "Some people find themselves with a need for each dimension of the triangle. However, they can't give up one of their needs because of the many. Love is complicated."